If Women Spent More Time Getting Money than Worrying About Their Relationships We'd Be Rich!

Tuesday night out with the girls was fabulous! Some Sangria's, great food and disturbing conversation. More often than not when my and my girls get together we rant on and on about the men in our lives or men in general, relationships and anything else that has to with the opposite sex. While my purpose of the night was to indulge in some "liquid deliciousness" to de-stress, I too fell into a deep fixation on trying to figure this relationship thing out. In 3 hours we covered everything from past loves to current loves to future loves, leaving nothing behind. As I took a second from our engaging dialogue, which I felt was garnering a little too much attention with our bursts of laughter, dramatic hand gestures and thoughtful reactions to one another, I looked around the room to find 6 other tables of women who seemed to be enthralled in similar conversations. At the moment the energy and the vibe in the room grew heavy and dreary! Why were we all spending a beautiful night out amongst friends talking about men!!!!

When I went home that night, I thought about all of the topics that could been covered at our table as well as those of my fellow single women....business ventures, investments, fashion, current events. Why did we all spend so much time reliving our past relationships? and our pessimism about future ones. I thought to myself, if we spent as much time talking about business that we did on relationships we'd be rich!

We live in the day in age where more young professional women are finding more value in nurturing a family than a career. While we all have moved through the ranks of higher education, Corporate America and have indulged ourselves in philanthropy, we've come to a point where other things start to become more important to us. One of the problems is that there are too many of us that are ready and not enough men to go around that are on the same page. So many of us wander around in limbo going about life feeling like we have no control over what's next in our lives.

I have to admit that I'm guilty of it as well, but I am sick of all of my conversation with my girl friends being centered on relationships and men. Most of which is never good news. While I spend my day reserving my energy for business ideas, searching for second jobs, thinking about where my next vacation will be, that's all wasted with a 5 minute conversation with a friend with the moral of the story ending in N.A.S...Talk about an energy drainer.

My message to women in guess what men talk about when they're not around us....not us! Women we spend too much time focusing on other people, and not enough time on ourselves. We look for validation in our relationships that we don't even know how to validate ourselves or each other. Guess what, while you're wrecking your brain thinking about how to jump start your business idea or how you can improve on some kind of operation at work and about that new PhD program you were thinking about, your girl that you spent 3 hours on the phone with last night complaining about "Jethro" just started her own business, has some connections with some investors and just enrolled in a PhD program last fall...

All I'm saying is there is life outside of a man! What about you? and what you want. Stop worrying about why he won't commit, how about worrying about how you can commit to that project you started a year ago. Stop worrying about when you're going to get married, worry about when you're going to get discovered...Women has so much power, we need to focus our energy on that and NOT on trying to figure out how to get to Venus!